parenting a mentally ill teenager - k.a - Jun 15th 2009
Hi, I've been raising a boy for 7 yrs who was in fostercare. He is now 14, he has a "mood disorder", is obsessive-compulsive, angry, narcisstic, and adhd. He is very creative, but easily stressed and anxious. It has been an overwhealming responsibility raising him and a yr ago he began destructive behaviours @ home (to our property) and began stealing and lying constantly. He now lives in a group home (2 mos) and is home every weekend. I want to reliquish my custody. He would still be in our life (visits, etc) but I would not parent him full time. I feel bad for him, yet the stress it has caused at home seems overwhelming. He has been on medication and weekly therapy since he came to live in our home. He does not take responsibility for his actions and actually seems to be oblivious to how his behavior affects others. I am done! Hard-copy? - Rob - May 12th 2009
This free online book is great, but is it available to be purchased offline? Also, a list of references would be great if possible! Editor's Note: At the present time, Psychological Self-Tools is only available in this online-format. Yeah need help - - Apr 26th 2009
Hello, I suffer from pain and anxiety and depression. I'm troubled by my own personal failings in social relationships. I've read the comments on this page and am not sure this place will help me but I wanted to add my voice to the conversation. I have not tried to kill myself yet and probably won't though I am not happy to be alive. After I lost several jobs and my wife left me and I lost all that I had I sought professional help. I am now taking medication that helps a little but not a lot and am going to seek further professional help while also utilizing the resources on the internet to help myself. The one thing that has remained constant in my life is my Christian faith. With out the love of Jesus and the guidence from God I surly would have killed myself by now. There have been a couple of times when I was on my knees praying to Jesus to take the pain away and show me a path to improve. Each time something has happened to rescue me from the depths of my distress. I just wanted to let the readers here know that for me Jesus has been a saving grace and though I suffer I know it is not in vain and somewhere in God's time I will be happy again. I love this book - Helen - Oct 26th 2008
I have printed some chapters of this book in 2000, I kept them and now I'm back, looking for other helpful readings. I was happy to find the book is still here! Thank you! i want sea more - tukaram - Sep 24th 2008
yes i can sea by my eyes, but i want to sea totaly by my inteligent mind for progress, for self help, to love each and evry live and nature, because i think if i can sea properly, yes then i have othority to take and give the love to and from world or creator there's so much pain - - Sep 3rd 2008
man there's so much pain i can't stand it anymore i don't see how i'll ever be happy or successful it's not fair that you get one life and you have to suffer so much. :( - - Aug 19th 2008
thanks for your help about self help everbody needs ıt Recently got it - patti - Jul 23rd 2008
Have been suffering from anxiety and depression since a young child, and recently learned I suffer from avoidance disorder. I'm eager to know if any one out there has any input to this problem. Thank you, Patti Self Help requires true inner strength - Bob Hauck - Mar 5th 2008
For those of you who seek help here, know that you are stronger than most. In order to help yourself you have to be willing to see parts of yourself that you do not like. I would venture to guess that most people are unable and/or unwilling to do this. I commend the authors and those that see self improvement. Love is the key - - Feb 26th 2008
I just want to send out Peace and Blessings to all those who may stop by here for help, whether for a loved one or for yourself. i am truly honored to share this planet with you and I just want you to know that I certainly do Love you, wherever you are and whomever you may be!!!!!! That's from my heart! Soleah www.myspace.com/soleah_rayne Amazing - Smith - Jan 26th 2008
I have never heard of an online self help book but I think that this is an wonderful idea to help people with those secretive problems that you do not want to broadcast to the world. There are a lot of people going through things, and if this is going to help cope with those problems, I say try it. This is very amazing! difficult to find help from others - Straw - Dec 15th 2007
I am a Chinese girl, and suffering from some mental disorders judging by myself. It is difficult to get help from others here, so hopefully I can get some advice here. hypochondrium - Andrea - Aug 2nd 2007
This is my first to this web. my friend has hypochondrium and it has made his life terrible. I am wondering what kind of article I should read in order to help him. This is a fantastic website - - May 16th 2007
Thank you so much. This website looks to be just what I need right now, especially the in-depth self-help tools. never knew - EMily - Apr 23rd 2007
I never knew what was wrong with me. It took a friend to help me relize that only i can fix my pain and no one else can. No one else has been able to get rid of the emptyness in me. Now i have to find a way to feel better before this ache kills me. to the person below - - Nov 27th 2006
i hope things get better I dont like to be alive - muneca - Nov 3rd 2006
too many painful memories and it never stops Thanks Elsa - N - Oct 26th 2006
Thanks for your observations on the page, as a "regular" American, it is unusual to get the observations of a Buddhist To live is to Suffer - elsa - Sep 22nd 2006
The first Noble Truth translates more precisely as "To live is to Suffer." It is inevitable which is why Buddha thought that the only way to escape the endless cycle of suffering is to reach enlightenment. It doesn't involve suffering....life defines what it means to suffer. I am a Tibetan Buddhist since birth. I am not a depressed individual. I am a simple person but I do believe that there was simply a misinterpretation of this Noble Truth and wanted to let you know. It is very kind of you to offer help to those who are suffering and are unable to live because of it. I notice this much more in the U.S versus in the 3rd World. Interesting thing though....that there is a big difference. | 
The first "noble truth" of Buddhism states a fact that is obvious to many people who will be reading this document: life involves suffering. At various times in life, most people will be faced with one or more mental health, wellness or life issues that will cause them pain in one form or another and which they will want to rid themselves of. People faced with such issues and illnesses have three basic options for getting help. They can seek help from medical or mental health professionals (or people who hold themselves out as teachers of one sort or another); they can choose to work on their problems themselves through a process of self-help; or they can combine professional/teacher and self-help approaches. There are many benefits to be had from professional helpers. In some cases and for some problems, the only real benefits that can be had are had through professional helpers. This is certainly the case with serious mental illnesses such as Bipolar Disorder or Schizophrenia. Nevertheless, professional helpers are expensive, seldom available as much as you might like, and limited in terms of what they can offer. For these and other reasons which we'll outline below, it is a very good idea for people dealing with painful issues and illnesses to learn methods for helping themselves. 
