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I am a 23 year old male, currently single but have had my share of relationships. I had sex for the first time when I was 18, and have never been able to achieve orgasm. As of lately, I have noticed that it puts strain on my relationships because my partners feel like I do not truly care for them (it couldn't be anymore untrue). I had a rough childhood through family dysfunction and, just lately, I remembered when I was in 1st grade and I slept over at a male friend's house when his older brothers began talking about oral sex. My "friend" and his older brothers actually began practicing it on each other and tried to get me to do it. All I can remember is becoming extremely frightened, and I think that this memory plagues me, especially when I try to practice healthy sexuality with my girlfriends. I have performance anxiety, and I almost feel like the nervous feelings I get before committing the act curb my sex drive. I don't know what to do.

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