Are You an Oscar the Grouch Sometimes?Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. Updated: Nov 12th 2009 Remember Oscar from Sesame Street? He was that lovable and irritable Muppet that Jim Henson created, who always complained and said things in negative ways. In fact, he always lived in a garbage can, by choice, just to let remind everyone about his complaining self.
He always reminded me of another children's book my kids loved about the The Little Brute Family, written by Russell and Lillian Hoban. This family was so grouchy that they all ate sticks and stones stew."
Well, take heart fellow Oscars and Brutes. Recent research shows that there are benefits to being in a bad mood. Why, its enough to make a grouch smile and feel good.
An Australian psychologist, Professor Joe Forgas, of the University of New South Wales, reports that a bad mood cam help us think more clearly. According to Professor Forgas, miserable people are better at decision-making and less naive as compared to the optimistic types. His conclusions are based on several experiments he conducted with large numbers of subjects.
Professor Forgas said: "Whereas positive mood seems to promote creativity, flexibility, co-operation and reliance on mental shortcuts, negative moods trigger more attentive, careful thinking, paying greater attention to the external world."
His studies also found that sad people were better at stating their case through written arguments. Forgas says that a "mildly negative mood may actually promote a more concrete, accommodative and ultimately more successful communication style."
He goes on to say that cheerfulness fosters creativity while gloominess breeds attentiveness and careful thinking.
By the way, his research can be found in the Australian Science Magazine.
Discussion:
What is appealing about these findings is that they are consistent with "positive psychology." There is a tendency to label feelings such as anger, moodiness, anxiety, and depression as pathological. This is not true. Everyone goes through periods of lows and highs, depending a lot upon what is happening in their lives, hormonal ebbs and flows, what they are eating and even weather conditions.
These "bad moods" are only a problem if they persist for a long time with no relief. According to the old DSM IV, if a depressed mood persists for more than two weeks, it could mean that the person is experiencing something that needs treatment.
I know that in my family, when one of us is in a bad mood (yes, even psychotherapists have bad moods...grin)and one of us asks, "what is wrong," we have learned to respond by saying, "it is true, I am in a bad mood, but, it has nothing to do with you and it will pass." Or, we will respond, "yes, I am in a bad mood but I don't know why. Don't worry, it will pass."
Sometimes, going out for a run, bicycle ride or swim, will help the mood pass. My daughter will go and do yoga for an hour and feel much better afterwards.
It is also true that, if the bad mood is due to anger at someone in the family (never me because I'm perfect... big grin), we discuss it and work it through.
The point is, do not fret because you are in a bad mood. Its OK to be an Oscar when you need to be.
I invite everyone to write in the times when you have been an Oscar and what it's like.
Allan N. Schwartz, PhD.
need a little bit of everything - - Nov 13th 2009
"Whereas positive mood seems to promote creativity, flexibility, co-operation and reliance on mental shortcuts, negative moods trigger more attentive, careful thinking, paying greater attention to the external world."
This is one of the reasons why I think my husband and I have such nice balance. He tends to have more irritable moods and I tend to have more happy ones. I think in this world, we need a little bit of everything.
Beth That's It! - Cathy - Nov 12th 2009
My Oscar the Grouch moments can be summarized as "That's it!" I realized one day, just out of the blue, that the boys and the pets had this down to a science. They could ignore me, once, twice but on the third time I always said "That's it!" and they knew if they did not mobilize that clear consequences (I was doing the problem solving at that very moment) were coming as I would be at the height of my moment at that point. The fact that even the dogs and cats were tuned into this was just beyond belief. Anyone at our house with a "grouchy" problem is probbed until they just put it out there so that we don't have anyone punishing some one innocent of causing the problem. We have no one that would have to keep quiet because of a privacy issue outside the home. So, I'm not so much an Oscar the Grouch and the boys, well think, Bert & Ernie! | 
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