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You vs. Procrastination: 1 (Mindful) Secret to Winning the Battle

A reader once said that she doesn't know what it is, but when it comes to doing her tax forms she will do anything to avoid having to deal with it until she has "absolutely no choice." What is it about procrastination that makes it so prevalent and what can we do about it?

Usually behind every procrastination is a physical feeling that arises in our bodies that is uncomfortable.

The very thought of the task brings up this feeling.

However, because most of us practice being up in our heads so much and therefore, so cut off from our bodies, we don't realize this discomfort. In other words, we aren't aware of it.

Some people might label this discomfort resistance while others will say what lurks beneath is often some sense of fear.

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Fear of what?

Good question, that's a personal inquiry and only one you can answer. Some people may have fear wrapped up with money, while others fear being successful because of the risk of feeling pain in failing. So they procrastinate in doing the things that would make them successful and home or at work and therefore validate that little critic in their minds that tells them they "can't" be successful.

How do we intervene here?

We have to get to know our bodies better because this is where the feeling lies. In an earlier blog about sleep problems I discussed the body scan. This is not about relaxation, but about becoming attuned to sensations in the body so we can become more aware when discomfort is arising.

When we are aware of this discomfort, instead of avoiding it, which is what the procrastination mind wants to do, we can practice something different, something 180 degrees from our habit.

That is approaching the feeling, but approaching with a sense of curiosity. As if you've never noticed this feeling before. Practically speaking, take at least 1 minute out in that moment to observe the sensations that are there in the body from the inside out for even 1 minute.

In doing this, you may notice the feeling actually dissipating or maybe at what arises from time to time is a thought about what this resistance is all about.  

Then you can ask yourself after doing this, what is most important right now and then making a plan to make that happen.

Don't worry, the procrastination will arise over and over again, it's a strong habit, each time practice this again. You are likely to forget, that's natural, and when you are aware of this you are present and can practice again.

Try it out!

As always, please share your thoughts, stories, and questions below. Your interactions provide a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.

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