After the Abuse Has Ended
Getting out of the abusive situation is the first step toward healing and moving on in your life, but unfortunately, your work doesn't end there. Once you are physically safe and secure, it is a good idea that you seek professional help for any abuse-related difficulties you may develop.
- For example, you may have difficulty coping with abuse memories themselves.
- You may also benefit from assistance in coping with problems that develop because you were abused, such as:
- Substance abuse problems.
- Sexual or intimacy issues.
- Anger issues.
- Eating disorders.
Responses to Being Abused
It is important to keep in mind that each individual will have a different response to abuse. Each person experiences abuse differently, and is able to cope with abuse in different ways depending on their circumstances.
- While one person may suffer greater consequences as a result of abuse than another, there should be no shame involved in how little or much impact is suffered.
- There is a lot of luck involved when people who have been abused are able to resiliently recover from abuse with few scars.
- It doesn't happen often, and much of the circumstances that make it possible to accomplish are not directly in the control of those fortunate few.
- People have little control over whether they are abused, and little control over how that abuse impacts them.
Don't Blame Yourself
It is important to not blame yourself for having been abused, no matter what the circumstances of your abuse may have been. People tend to blame themselves for 'allowing' abuse to have happened to themselves.
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Just because you say things like this to yourself doesn't make them true.
- Abuse is abuse - it occurs when someone mistreats another person, ignoring their own wishes and dignity.
- You did not ask to be abused, and you probably had few ways to avoid it happening throughout most of the period the abuse occurred (if not all of it).
- Blaming the victim is common, but it doesn't make it a right or accurate thing to do. You are not to blame for having been abused.