How does one self know when they are truly happy and when they are only trying to make some one else happy?
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When you’re truly happy, you don’t tend to ask questions like this. This is because, when you are truly happy, you aren’t usually contemplating your life – you are enjoying it – immersed in it – making love to it. When you have doubts, or ambivalent feelings about your life – when there is a mixture of happiness and unhappiness – the unhappy parts end up sticking out in your mind and rub you the wrong way. The more introspective you are, the more you’ll notice that they are there, but even if you aren’t good at knowing what is going on inside you, you’ll know that something is going on when you begin wondering whether or not you are happy.