He Has Hit Me On A Few Occasions ...


Hi, I really need some advice,my boyfriend of 5 months is very insecure not only about himself but also about me. He accuses me on a daily basis of being dishonest or sneaky about the most trivial things, for example if my cell is out of service and he cant reach me ( even for 10 mins) then i’ve been cheating… its really hurting me because he is someone i care alot about and I am not cheating on him. It has got to the stage where his temper has become violent. He has hit me on a few occasions and often threatens to do it again if he’s mad or annoyed about something i’ve done. How can i show him i’m not dishonest or cheating on him?

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Don’t bother trying to show him that you aren’t dishonest or cheating on him. No amount of appeasment will help make him feel less insecure. Recognize that you are in an abusive relationship, and are being actively physically, verbally and emotionally abused. The smart thing to do is to bolt; to leave the relationship completely before you get locked into it more deeply (by pregnancy or children or marriage or shared property) and have less freedom to leave. Read this article to learn more about abuse.

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