Question:
I am a girl of 16 and I think I am in love with my female teacher; she’s 30. I don’t know how to tell her about my feelings.
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Answer:
I highly recommend not telling her! It is not uncommon for individuals in your stage of life to confuse their feelings. Is it possible that you are confusing admiration with love? Do you have any experience with homosexual relationships? Does she? It is not uncommon for individuals of the same sex to feel strongly about one another, but it is not necessary to act on those feelings. There are also too many negative consequences if you were to tell her of your feelings, social as well as legal. She is your teacher and you are a minor… Consider how telling her about your feelings could affect your friendship with her. Have you told any of your friends about your feelings? How did they react? You must consider the social stigma that homosexuality still carries. You are young and peers often react negatively to those who are different. There is nothing wrong with homosexuality, but you should be sure of your sexuality before announcing it. Don’t do something that you may regret later. Best of luck, – Anne
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