Irritated With Each Other


My boyfriend and I argue all the time. But we know that we are in love because we both can feel it. We always seem to irritate one another. We are both very insecure, and we both always want to be right. How can we just get over all of this bull crap and get along?

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My best advice for your situation is to talk to each other about your feelings without arguing. Find out what exactly it is that irritates the both of you about each other, and when you think you’re right about things allow the other person to explain why they feel they are correct. In some situations, you both may be right. Communication is so important to a relationship. Without it, you don’t know what each other is feeling. With it, you can pretty much get through anything. Be open with each other, and most importantly, be honest and understanding. Remember that you are individuals who may have come from very different families, upbringings, and locations. These factors will influence you, and although it’s what you’ve grown up knowing, what you’ve learned may not always be the right way — or — the only way to react to or handle situations. Regardless of how similar you may feel you are, no two people are alike. Learn to appreciate that in each other. Best of luck to you, – Anne

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