Question:
I am 33 years old and I still have problems trying to control my emotions. I find that I have terrible mood swings, and am overly sensitive. The slightest things that people say can upset me and have caused many sleepless nights. I have found that as a result I have withdrawn from the world to stop myself from getting hurt, and I can see that life is gradually passing me by. I hope that you can help me.
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Answer:
Realize that most people don’t intend to hurt you with what they say or do. Try telling yourself that people are not intentionally malicious to you. When you are upset with others actions and you cannot easily dismiss it, explaining to them your reaction to what they said can help both you deal with it, and possibly prevent other incidences of distress. Instead of withdrawing from the world try to interact with it. Large drastic actions such as dinner parties are not necessary to begin with. Start with small goals for yourself for the day such as complementing smiling at somebody then move on to complimenting them and gradually progress until you do not feel as withdrawn from the world. If you continue to have problems look for a psychologist in your area. Best of luck, – Anne
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