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My Husband Is Gay

Question:

I am 23-years old and have been married for 5 months. About three weeks ago my husband had an affair with a man. I didn’t know what had happened. He just dissapeared for four days, then came home and told me that he was gay. He told me the whole story and who the man was. We are still together because I didn’t know what to do. We need help but I haven’t been able to find anyone who can help us. Our minister at church has been looking for help as well but comming up short. I need help and support, please help me. If you have any information please let me know.

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Answer:

There are 2 issues at hand. First of all, your husband was unfaithful to you. Secondly, your husband has declared that he is gay. Oftentimes, being cheated on is difficult enough to deal with in a marriage, but the feelings associated with being told that your husband is not attracted to your sex brings about even more questions. Try clicking to the PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) web site. It may provide you with some information or links to the help you are seeking. The site is located at http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/index.html. Best of luck to you in finding some relief in your matter. Take care, – Anne

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