Question:
I am 36 years-old and married with one 6 year-old child. My problem is that I have secret meetings that include sex with an old boyfriend on a regular basis. I need to quit the relationship, but seem unable to do so. I am not happy with this relationship, and also I’m not happy with my marital partner. Is there something I can do to end the relationship in steps?
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Answer:
Well, first of all I think you already know the answer. If you are not happy then end it. It seems to me that now you have two problems though. Your spouse and your secret affair. I know it is very hard to end something that seems comfortable, but you have to make the first step to get your life on track again. Start thinking about yourself, and things you must do to make yourself happy. Think about your 6 year-old. The secret relationship needs to go. With your spouse, try therapy. If the both of you go, then maybe things can work out between you. In general, if you do not feel anything or know it is not going to work, then maybe it is time to take a different path. My advice to you is to live for yourself and your child. If you are not happy in either relationship, then end them both.. Maybe talk to a therapist, they can give you a better perspective. I hope that you can make yourself happy again. Be patient, it all works out in the end. Hope things work out, – Anne
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