Death & Dying Articles, Research & Resources

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About Death, Dying & Grief

Approximately 3.3 million people died in the United States in 2020. (1) That’s about 1,000 deaths for every 100,000 people in the United States. Each person that passed away left behind a group of grieving loved ones who had to find ways to cope with loss. In some cases, it’s the dying person themselves struggling with grief as they come to terms with their own mortality.

Death, dying, and grief are enormously impactful subjects that touch on everything from the state of health care and overall wellness to religion and spirituality. Finding healthy ways to tackle these weighty subjects is crucial, but it’s also important to understand that there’s no one right way to come to terms with death and grief.

Death & Dying — In The News
Researchers Identify 8 Signs of Impending Death

MONDAY, Feb. 9, 2015 (HealthDay News) -- Researchers say they have identified eight specific physical signs that strongly indicate that someone with advanced cancer is entering the last days of life. The investigators focused on telltale signs that a patient has, at most, just three days to live. The... Read More

Many Americans Face Pain, Depression in Their Final Year

MONDAY, Feb. 2, 2015 (HealthDay News) -- For a growing number of Americans, the final year of life is marked by pain, depression and other distressing symptoms, a new study finds. Experts said the study, published Feb. 2 in Annals of Internal Medicine, highlights disturbing shortcomings in the U... Read More

Most Americans Agree With Right-to-Die Movement

FRIDAY, Dec. 5, 2014 (HealthDay News) -- Already-strong public support for right-to-die legislation has grown even stronger in the days since the planned death of 29-year-old brain cancer patient Brittany Maynard, a new HealthDay/Harris Poll has found. An overwhelming 74 percent of American adults now believe that terminally ill patients... Read More

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Planning for & Dealing With Death

Death comes with a tangle of complicated emotions, but it also comes with a surprising amount of paperwork. Whether someone is overseeing their own end-of-life preparations or caregivers are attending to the personal and legal checklist after another person’s sudden passing, there’s much to be done, including: (2)

  • Obtaining a legal death pronouncement
  • Notifying friends and family
  • Planning for a funeral and burial
  • Contacting fraternal and religious groups, such as the Veterans Administration (VA) for former service people
  • Taking an inventory of assets
  • Sorting through and securing homes and vehicles
  • Obtaining copies of death certificates
  • Paying all outstanding bills and canceling subscriptions/other services

There are experts who can help make this process easier, and in many cases, those experts are also required to plan funerals, file and notarize paperwork, and execute wills.

Palliative & Hospice Care

Palliative care is highly specialized medical care for people who are seriously ill. (3) The focus is on improving quality of life. Type of care varies depending on the case, with caregivers often providing people suffering from heart failure, dementia, cancer, Parkinson’s disease, and other chronic conditions with everything from medical assistance to support with activities of daily living (ADL).

Hospice care is end-of-life care for people with terminal illnesses. (4) There is no long-term effort put into finding healing, but rather, it's based on finding ways to lessen pain, increase comfort, and attend to the patient’s physical, social, and spiritual needs.

After Death Rituals, Funerals & Burials

Death rites, funeral types, and burial options differ between religions and cultures. (5) Christian practices typically involve burying the body whole to allow for physical resurrection. Islam also believes in physical resurrection, with preparers washing the body, wrapping it in a simple white shroud, and burying it as quickly as possible. Hindus believe only the atman (aka “self”) is reincarnated, so cremation takes precedence.

There has also been a recent trend toward more progressive burial options. (6) For the first time in U.S. history, cremation rates have surpassed traditional burials. Water cremation is making headlines, and environmentally conscious individuals may choose to have a green burial featuring a biodegradable container instead of a classic casket.

Grief & Bereavement Issues

While it’s absolutely normal to experience grief after the death of a loved one, this grief or bereavement period can have a hefty impact on mental health.

Grief often comes in five stages, each with associated signs and issues: (7)

  1. Denial: Shock and disbelief that the person is actually gone
  2. Anger: Anger at the individual for “leaving” or even at one’s self for any real or perceived role in the person’s death
  3. Bargaining: Believing that doing something different could save or would have saved the person who’s dying or recently deceased
  4. Depression: Feeling sad, directionless, lost, confused about the future, and unable to concentrate and/or make decisions
  5. Acceptance: Acceptance is not “getting over” the loss but rather learning to live without the person being grieved

These stages are not always experienced in order. Some people may skip steps while others experience multiple stages simultaneously. There are no right or wrong answers to the way a person experiences each grief stage as people grieve differently.

How to Cope With the Death of a Loved One

Losing a loved one can be a tragic, heart-rending experience. Even “typical” grief patterns can negatively impact personal lives and professional obligations, so it’s vital to explore different coping techniques and seek support.

Research shows that one of the best ways to cope with loss is to combine social support and health habits with the natural passage of time. (8) Suggestions include:

  • Talking about the lost loved one. Discuss favorite memories and share stories, but most importantly, avoid trying to bury the deceased’s life and overall existence.
  • Acknowledging feelings without judgment. It’s okay to feel angry and exhausted. It’s also okay to still feel happy and experience joy. All feelings are valid when grieving.
  • Prioritizing self-care. Minding health and wellness by eating balanced meals, sticking to a solid sleep schedule, and getting plenty of exercise can help both the brain and the body heal.
  • Seek professional support. A licensed psychologist, psychiatrist, or counselor can help the bereaved address grief-related issues and find healthy ways to cope.

How to Help Someone Who Has Lost a Loved One

As challenging as it is to navigate grief first-hand, it can be as challenging or even more difficult to help someone who is experiencing a loss of their own. The best way to support someone who is grieving is to be present and open to whatever they need. (9)

That might mean:

  • Reassuring the individual that it’s okay to talk about the deceased
  • Respecting each individual’s unique approach to grief
  • Being flexible and accepting last-minute schedule changes and mood swings
  • Using sympathetic language like “This must be so painful for you and your family” rather than judgmental or explanatory language like “It’s not healthy to cry all the time” or “They’re in a better place"
  • Focusing on small gestures that mean a lot, such as delivering a home-cooked meal or offering to help out with household chores (10)
  • Calling the deceased by name and recalling shared memories to reinforce rather than erase their existence
  • Avoiding toxic positivity and swapping out phrases like “time heals all” for language that normalizes grief and related struggles

Anyone struggling with their own mortality or the death of a loved one should know that they can reach out for professional help at any time or look for local support groups for additional empathy and assistance.


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