Seeing Through the Ego's Fantasy-Reality Gap
"One of the ego's favorite “problems” is the fantasy—reality gap, in other words, a gap between what it dreams up that we should, have to, need to, want, wish and expect (the fantasy) and the feedback from “what is” (the reality). The attitudes of wanting what is fair in an often unfair world, and wanting to be free in an often unfree world, illustrate this gap. " More...
"To observe that life contains unavoidable difficulty is not to minimize its impacts or to suggest that we should give up trying to make life better. But people – me included – add a lot of unnecessary frustration, anxiety, and self-criticism by resisting difficulty – often with an underlying attitude of “it shouldn’t be this way.” Try the attitude of accepting difficulty instead of getting aggravated by it. It’s a lot more peaceful." More...
Worrying Too Much?
"It seems to be a worldwide affliction - over active brains that torture us day in and day out over negative possibilities that may never come to pass. We ask ourselves "what if" questions that make us worry even more. So how can we free ourselves from the constant stream of thoughts that run through our minds?" More...
PTSD: Using a Seasoned Approach in a New Way
"When we think of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), we often attach the diagnosis to military veterans. While those who have served our country clearly are at a higher risk of developing PTSD than the general population, PTSD affects others too. PTSD develops after a person has experienced an extremely traumatic event involving physical harm or a threat to physical harm. The person may have experienced the harm personally or may have witnessed it." More...
The Holidays and the Meaning of Giving
"Positive psychology tells us that there are physical and mental health benefits to giving to others. With the holidays in mind this becomes an important discussion. The question is, what is meant by giving? Here, in the United States, the world forgiving carries over tones and... " More...
Is Fasting an Effective Therapy for Weight Loss?
"With numerous best-selling books touting the advantages of fasting for weight loss, many people are wondering if fasting is a safe and effective way to lose weight. With New Year's resolutions approaching, this question seems more pertinent than ever." More...
The Beauty of Saying "No"
"We are inundated with requests every day - from our employer, from our family, and - perhaps most destructively - from ourselves. And in a society that perpetuates the message that multitasking and ultra-productivity are requirements for self-worth, we feel as though we simply can't say "no."" More...
Be Careful About What You Read Online
"A patient recently reported to me that they feel guilty about their impending divorce. Surprised to hear this because I thought these issues were settled, she informed me about some online articles she read about marriage and divorce. Specifically..." More...
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