Warm Up This Winter By Embracing Mistakes
"I'm such a failure! / You're such a failure! Sound familiar? It does to me, especially at this time of year when our New Year's resolutions are just starting to unravel. The long dark stretch of winter makes us frazzled, tired and annoyed at our own and our loved one's failings. Perfectionism, idealism, and harshness are very effective at creating walls, and can keep us away from ourselves and from others." More...
Helping Your Kids Avoid the Trap of Materialism
"The root of the problem is the mentality we bring to our purchasing behavior. We accumulate unnecessary possessions because we feel entitled to them for our hard work. Or, we buy into ubiquitous advertising messages that that tells us we "need" a particular item. But as our closets, basements and garages bulge from consumptive habits our children are taking mental notes." More...
Does Hypnosis Work?
"It's funny to see people's reactions when I mention hypnosis as an option for dealing with a stuck place or trauma. Most people think it means I will put them in a deep trance after which they will remember nothing, as depicted on some sensationalist TV shows in the past. Not only would I consider this unethical in a psychotherapy setting, but I question its usefulness! The approach I use is much more interactive and creative, while my client is either fully conscious or in a light trance." More...
Part II: Time to Turn Over the Car Keys?
"If you conclude through a formal assessment or by your own observation that your parent's ability to drive is impaired it is time to begin addressing the issue. However, accomplishing this goal may not be easy. Any suggestion that car keys be relinquished could be met with resistance, frustration, anger, or hostility. The best approach is a gentle one that seeks common ground with your parent." More...
Helping Yourself Speak Your Truth
"Normal as they are, these inhibitions limit your autonomy, and consequently, your intimacy. Their regulation is excessive and thus unskillful. And they harm others by denying them important information about how you are feeling and what you really care about. Here are some ways to deal with them:" More...
Part I: Time to Turn Over the Car Keys?
"Most people don't think about the potential hazards of elderly drivers until they hear about a tragic accident where age seems to play a major role in the mishap. One example occurred in 2003 when an 86 year-old man drove his Buick Le Sabre into a crowded farmer's market in Santa Monica, California killing 10 people and injuring more than 70 others. His attorneys explained that he had confused his car's accelerator for the brake.Health and safety experts say that many crashes involving elderly drivers, like the one above, occur because the older adult refuses to give up his or her car keys. In our highly mobile and self-sufficient culture, the car represents independence. " More...
Who’s Coming through the Door Again?
"[To the tune of “When Johnny Comes Marching Home Again”]When mommy comes walking through the door, hurrah, hurrah. When mommy comes walking through the door, hurrah, hurrah. My mind will dance, my heart will sing, When I hear the doorbell ring. And we’ll all shout “Hurrah” when mommy comes home again!" More...
|View All Blog Entries|
|View All Reader Questions|