Catch A "Wild Pitch?" You Must Be Kidding!
posted by Will Joel Friedman, Ph.D. on Jan 27th 2012
"Consider a powerful metaphor for recognizing and then "buying out" of all manipulations. For clarity, manipulation can be considered any behavior that aims to influence another that is irresponsible, indirect and dishonest. Thus, manipulation is the use of untoward means to gain some end, benefit or advantage at the expense of another. " More...

Breaking Bad Habits Using The Now Effect
posted by Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. on Jan 26th 2012
"The brain is an organ that makes things we do in life routine so that it can handle more complex tasks. Some of these routines help us, like walking, putting on clothes and exercising, while others hinder us, like overeating, drinking, and procrastination. How can we begin to recognize that space between stimulus and response where choice lies to gain freedom from our unhealthy reactivity and choose a response toward a healthier life? This space of clarity is what I call The Now Effect and you can train it like walking and talking, to create lasting life changes. " More...

Don't Beat Yourself Up
posted by Rick Hanson, Ph.D. on Jan 26th 2012
"The previous Just One Thing (JOT) – admit fault and move on – was about our relationship with other people. This JOT applies the same practice to ourselves. It’s one thing to call yourself to task for a fault, try to understand what caused it, resolve to correct it, act accordingly, and move on. This is psychologically healthy and morally accountable. It’s another matter entirely to grind on yourself, to lambaste your own character, to fasten on the negative and ignore the good in you, to find yourself wanting – in other words, to beat up yourself." More...

Infidelity, Can A Marriage Be Mended?
posted by Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. on Jan 24th 2012
"I get a lot of Emails from people who have gone through the heartache of a spouse having cheated. In almost all of these cases people want to know if it's possible to reconcile and move on with the relationship? It's never an easy question to answer..." More...

A Strange Question about Recovery from Depression: Why Get Well?
posted by John Folk-Williams on Jan 24th 2012
"Several years ago, as I was working hard to get the better of depression, I asked myself a basic question: Why get well? After all, if I'm trying so hard to get rid of a condition I've had for most of my life, I ought to be able to see what I'm aiming for. " More...

Marriage and Infidelity
posted by Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. on Jan 23rd 2012
"One of the leading causes of divorce is infidelity. Though infidelity might seem like a simple concept to understand it is actually quite complex. Before going any further in this blog, it is important to assert that marital infidelity does not plague every marriage..." More...

Why Do Couples Divorce?
posted by Allan Schwartz, LCSW, Ph.D. on Jan 20th 2012
"If we ask the question, "Why Do People Marry?" as we did in a recent post, then we must ask, "Why Do People Divorce?" Given that we now have a more than 50% rate of divorce, this is a very relevant question. Here are some of the theories and explanations that have been advanced. First, during the last two hundreds years,..." More...

Relationship Problems? Stop Watering the Seeds of Suffering
posted by Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. on Jan 19th 2012
"Like everything else, all of us human beings have a dark side. We bound to become frustrated, irritable, suspicious, rude and even despairing. More often than not, the people who this energy rubs off on are those who are closest to us. It could be a husband, wife, best friend, or child. Either way, we engage in a way that only serves to drag the other down. Internationally bestselling author and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh calls this "watering the seeds of suffering." How do we break free from this cycle? " More...