someone always cares.... - posted by [no name] on November 20, 2009
"bipolar is a challenge to try and handle.  mood swings, anger, hate, love, friends, no one like me, i could go on.. i have been there, am there, never seem to leave there, but some days when i am my true self, it is a total joy to be alive and appreciate all the superb things we have. on an average i was getting a day and a half once a month of being myself. then thing ..." More

Not every AA is a sexual predator! - posted by [no name] on November 20, 2009
"Mona Lisa : " ....  Not every AA is a sexual predator!  Still, when 50% of surveyed women report being 13th stepped and two report being raped by fellow AA's it is cause for alarm. On a personal note myself, I'm a woman and was in my mid-30s when I quit drinking and went to AA.  I was attractive and in good shape (still am).  My sponsor's husband used ..." More

To Rather Not. - posted by JR. on November 20, 2009
"Hello, Rather Not, I agree with Allan's comments.  If i may add - I think it is key question as to whether you husband shows any willingness to engage with you as to the problems in your relationship and situation.  If he does not - there is a strong case for saying that you should take the fuzzies and leave.  I know that this is a difficult option - but there it is.  ..." More

Porn - posted by Allan N. Schwartz, PhD on November 20, 2009
"Hi James, I want to thank you for your comment and state that it has a lot of merit. In my opinion, its terrific that you and your girlfriend can view porn together and intergrate it into your mutual sex lives, to excite and enliven each other. The other people on this site whose comments you have read, do not have this positive attitude be ..." More

Money and Marriage - posted by Allan N. Schwartz, PhD on November 20, 2009
"Hello "Sharing money and marriage," It is good that you have spoken to your friends about this issue but you also need to know that every couple works out their financial arrangements in ways that are mutually agreeable. More than anything else, you and your girlfriend need to have a sense of trust in each other. That trust becomes even more important if y ..." More

Alcoholic Husband - posted by Allan N. Schwartz, PhD on November 20, 2009
"Hello Rather Not, Given the amount of fear that you mention: fear of your husband killing the pets, fear of his burning the house down and the awful type of life you describe, it certainly makes sense for you to take your pets and move out, going to your mother's house or to a friend. In addition, following through with the divorce lawyer also makes sense. Of course, do ..." More

Sharing money in marriage - posted by [no name] on November 20, 2009
"I have an issue thats been bothering me and possibly in turn my girlfriend for sometime and I wonder could you give me your thoughts I have been with my girlfriend for 5years and we are very happy togther. I have worked extremely hard throughout my career, often working long hours and as a result have been able to afford some little extras like a bit of travelling each year etc. Al ..." More

13th stepping - posted by Mona Lisa on November 20, 2009
"V Micheal, I didn't post the study about 13th stepping to suggest that males are the only culprits.  I am well aware that females are guilty of it too.  I'm also aware that the practice isn't universal.  Not every AA is a sexual predator!  Still, when 50% of surveyed women report being 13th stepped and two report being raped by fellow AA's it is cause for alarm. ..." More

Now about sex - posted by Mike on November 20, 2009
"Far be it from me to deny anyone the opportunity to hook up.  But I have to wonder.  Should people seeking help with one addiiction be referred to a program in which another is lurking not so deep beneath the surface?  I mean, in a professional environment we have policies governing our relationships with clients and co-workers. This helps enforce a code of conduct ..." More

separate issue - posted by Abbadun on November 20, 2009
"Hi Michael I think that the problems of AA have to be dealt with as a separate issue from the discussion on how to deal with addiction. Most of AA's problems have little to do with addiction. AA's religious prejudice, inbred culture, date ideas and other issues are a singular issue. The same could be said of other self-help groups if any of them refuse to change, grow and/or improv ..." More

Thank you for this article - posted by chris on November 20, 2009
"my daughter was just diagnosed with cluster b traits. I enjoyed this article." More

Sinclair method - posted by Rapper on November 20, 2009
"The Sinclair Method is an option for alcohol abuse. It is not for those that find that abstinence is their only way. It is a great program and I recommend that anyone having trouble google it. You will also possibly find how naltrexone is used(or supposed to beused) for other addictions." More

This method works - posted by Rapper on November 20, 2009
"I believe most of the negative parts of an alcoholics life are caused by the alcohol. This method works!! That is it. No argument. If it reduces an alcoholics consumption 50%, is that a success? I believe it is. It is not an EXCUSE to drink. It is a way to drink enjoyably and responsably. Alcoholics are allowed to enjoy their lives just as everyone else is. We don't have to feel guilty ..." More

The Sinclair Method - posted by Rapper on November 20, 2009
"For anyone who wants a great way to help an alcoholic, look up The Sinclair Method. It may sound to good to be true but it is true. And it is good. If you know someone struggling w/ alcoholism this may very well save their life. Look it up now!!! This is not an advertisement, money scam, etc. The medicine used, naltrexone, is a generic drug. A book written about it costs like 10 ..." More

Hubby is alcoholic and has conversations with himself - posted by Rather not on November 20, 2009
"I have been married 31+ yrs. My husband is an alcoholic. Our kids drink also and I drink very little. My husband is getting to the point of I think exploding - he is an introvert. I mostly raised the kids while he was in the Navy and I stay alone while he works on a rig, boat or in another state. He pops a beer in the am. Gets  very angry when I want to cook him a meal and at supper time, ..." More