We have had a love marriage and were going around for 8 yrs. before marriage. We have been having problems even before marriage. But we got married assuming we are too much in love. I am a very violent women. I don’t know what happens to me in the night? I accuse my husband of things he might have never dream of doing. I misbehave with him, call him names and make his life hell. The outcome of which is: he gets physical with me and beats me. I am very tired of all this. I feel he no longer loves and cares for me. And he gives more attention to others but me. He never does anything that I want him to do for me. I am extremely jealous of any girls he has as friends, and have become very suspicious of him. What he does, where he has been etc? I don’t want to be like this. This is not the actual me. I love him very much and am scared that I have almost lost him because of this behaviour of mine. Please advice me what to do and how to overcome this.
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If you are determined to set your marriage straight, I suggest that you and your husband seek professional counseling. This person may be able to help you learn non-violent techniques in handling your emotions, and he or she will help to foster healthier communication between the both of you. Take care, – Anne