i am at my breaking point,my husband continues to use drugs even though we are going bankrupt.i borrowed money to try and save our house from foreclosure,but a restraining order was put on our bank acc.i am unable to work because of severe copd, depression,&emphysema;i am waiting to hear from soc. sec..isuspect that my husband is looking for extra relationships becuse i found that he sent love messages on line…please help me.
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There isn’t much that I can say to make things better except that my heart does go out to you; I know you are in a lot of pain and I hope that you will be able to find your way to a better place. You have a complex set of problems happening that really require local attention and support. My best suggestion is that you look up your local community mental health center and see if you can get an appointment there for help with your depression and with practical advice (if they can give it) for how to manage your domestic situation. If you can manage it, you might consider attending a 12-step meeting for families of addicts (such as Al Anon). Some form of local practical counseling and support would seem to be of benefit given your stressful situation and poor health. Good luck.