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Child Psychological Disorder

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p>My 11 yr old boy is very isolated, has no friends, if he does it is short lived and it is only because he calls to play – they never call back. He is not very nice (not a bully but very critical of others) he plays sports but and gets along but no one ever invites him to play after the sports. He has a vast imagination and plays by himself all the time (throwing a ball, shooting a hockey puck, used to play with action figures by him self) He is average in telligence with no academic issues

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p>there are many areas of development for our children which are particularly important. One major area of importance is academic performance in school. The fact that you report that he has average intelligence indicates that he is doing “well enough” in his school performance. The other area of importance is in social relationships. Evidently, there is something interfering with your son’s ability to relate to his peers and cultivate friendships. The question is what is wrong?

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p>you indicate that he is not a bully but is “not very nice.” On the surface it appears that he is pushing other youngsters away from him for some reason. This pushing away of others leaves him isolated and alone. Other children do not invite to do fun things together after their sports activities are completed. Normally, engaging in team sports such as baseball, football, etc. begins to cement relationships. This is not happening for your son.

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p>I want to suggest that you have your son evaluated by a psychologist in order to diagnose what may be preventing him from engaging in the types of activities that other eleven year olds do. There could be any number of possibilities:

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p>1. He may be shy and avoiding social contact to avoid his anxious feelings.

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p>2. He may have some form of autism that causes him to isolate himself. He may not have a full blown case but some variation thereof.

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p>3. Perhaps he is struggling Asperger’s disorder which is related to autism but is also very different.

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p>4. There may be something happening in school or in the neighborhood that he is frightened of and avoiding.

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p>5. If there are problems at home he may feel upset about revealing them by making friends with other children and having them over his house.

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p>6. Not socializing is a way of remaining close to home. Children sometimes want to remain close to home out of a belief that they are protecting their mom or they may believe their mom needs them to be close to home.

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p>Whatever the problems are that keep you son from developing his social skills he needs a chance to overcome them in order that he will feel confident about taking his place in the world once he becomes an adolescent and an adult. However, it is first necessary to diagnose what is wrong and then provide the type of treatment that will help him resolve those issues. The sooner you send him for help the sooner he will to deal with and reduce the barriers to his social development. He has youth on his side, act quickly.

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