My husband has an extremely low sex drive all of a sudden. Is there a medication he can take to improve this issue before it causes more of a strain on our marriage?
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Although your question is short and seems simple in nature it is actually very complicated. There are many problems that can cause a man or woman to experience diminished sex drive.
Libido or sex drive are influenced by some of the following problems:
1. Depression, 2. Diabetes, 3. Stress and anxiety, 4. High Blood pressure, 5. Worries about such things as work status, money and bills, mortgages, cardio vascular disease and many other types of physical and psychiatric conditions.
Of course, there is always the issue of what is happening in your marriage. have you been arguing with each other a lot. Do you share the same tastes and preferances when it comes to sex? Do you talk to each other about what you do and do not like? Are there other things that could strain your marriage, such as money and work? Does he know that you want sex or are there things he is unhappy with?
What you need to do is speak to your husband and find out what the problem is. If nothing else is wrong then it is a good idea for him to have a complete physical examination. That does depend a lot on his age. If both of you are young then the problem is more likely to be stress or relationship.
The two of you need to talk and in talking you need to listen to what he is saying so that you can learn what might be going on in his mind and his attitude. Depending on whether the problem is marital, psychological or physical you both need to take the necessary steps to get help: psychotherapy, marriage counseling, medical diagnosis or psychiatric diagnosis.
In talking to one another the idea is to avoid getting defensive. That is why I am advising you to listen. So many marital problems stem from the fact that people do not listen but do argue.
Best of Luck