Question:
I met a guy through a work situation. He lives in another state. We have been in contact, mostly through e-mails, for the past 6 months. Then, all of the sudden, he won’t return any calls or emails. I know he has a young son. It has been a friend/mentor relationship, but he knows I am attracted to him. There has been no pressure or ultimatums given, he just stopped responding completely out of the blue!
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Answer:
When someone in a relationship stops responding to the other person, they are sending a pretty clear message of rejection to that other person. They may not be saying it out loud, but as actions speak louder than words, they are saying it nevertheless. If this guy doesn’t want to talk to you anymore, the right thing to do is to let go of him and move on to the next guy. Don’t get so wrapped up in wanting to be loved and respected that you forget to love and respect yourself first.
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