I have been in a relationship for about 3 years with someone who has a girlfriend and is married. I’m not sure if he is separated, but he is about 20 years my senior. I have been trying to get the nerve to end it, but for some reason I can’t. I lost my virginity to him. What do I do? He lies constantly and is a manipulator when I want to get the nerve to end it. But I never tell him. He is also a womanizer who never tells me the truth, but insists that we have a honest relationship.
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I have a feeling that you already know what you need to do: leave this relationship. I am concerned that you are having an intimate relationship with a man whom you don’t even know is separated or not from his wife — and is additionally seeing another woman. Although you lost your virginity to this man, you are not tied to him in any way no matter how romantic the notion may be. You know that he lies constantly and he has a serious character flaw of being a womanizer. You cannot possibly imagine having a meaningful, deeply intimate, and completely honest (including monogamous) relationship with this man, can you? I believe it is imperative that you get up the nerve to leave this man. There are many other men in this world that will treat you the right way. Best of luck to you, – Anne