I’m angry all the time, the slightest thing makes me angry. Usually if something doesn’t go as planned or if someone wrongs me, I feel intense anger. This happens on a daily basis. I can’t tolerate any mistakes that I or other people make either. I got very annoyed at my partner because he was walking too slowly. I cry very easily and on a daily basis. I feel like I’m losing control and worried about my relationship.
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What you are experiencing may be symptoms of depression. Anger and irritability can very well signify depression and you cry and feel like you are losing control and are in danger of losing your relationship.
It’s possible that other things are going on along with depression. For example, people will do what they can to push people away if they are feeling stifled by or worried about intimate relationships. Only you would know but it might be a good idea to ask yourself if you are trying to push your partner away?
Even though you mentioned nothing in your short Email question, it’s important to mention alcohol or drug abuse as causitive factors in feeling so angry. If this is not a problem for you then there is no need to even think about it. However, if drugs and or alcohol are involved then be aware that they can be a contributing factor to all kinds of mood disorders.
There are several things you can do to help yourself relieve your feelings of anger. Naturally, if you feel depressed, and it sounds like you might because of the tearfullness, then psychotherapy is the way to go, especially cognitive behavior therapy. There are many clinical psychologists and social workers trained in this. In addition, it might be necessary to begin anti depressant medication if the therapist and you believe it’s necessary because things are not imporiving. In fact, medication might be necessary from the very start.
There are also a number of self help things you can do to help relieve your emotional turmoil. For instance, exercise is always important. It not only promotes health but also relieves stress, anxiety and depression. Along with exercise, mindful meditation, and you can read about it on the Internet by doing a Google search, is enormously helpful. I want to urge to you to into a program of Yoga because of the many emotional and health benefits that come from it’s practice.
Hopefully, all of these suggestions, especially psychotherapy, can help you feel in control once again.
Best of luck