Question:
I met this guy and he called me but then he just stopped! i don’t know why can you help?
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Answer:
Wondering why this sort of thing happens (and it happens to all of us) is often just a cover for feeling sorry for yourself. You are perhaps wondering if you are somehow not worthy of this person. You are looking for ways to put yourself down. Don’t do that. There is more than enough pain in the world waiting for you without you having to contribute more. Also, when someone doesn’t call you back, that is more a statement about them than about you. Move on to the next one and don’t stop moving on until you find one who helps you to feel happy inside most of the time.
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