Mandy has been working in the mental health field for more than eight years and has worked with a diverse group of clients. These range
Every decision has a positive and a negative aspect. Sometimes the positives outweigh the negatives and sometimes it’s the opposite. When it comes to being open about our feelings there isn’t a clear cut answer.
It’s something I have often given thought to and I wanted to do a post on this purely to try get to the bottom of whether or not it is more beneficial that not to be open and express our feelings to others.
Some people are innately more expressive and open than others. Women tend to be more forthcoming about their feelings and emotions than men and this may be down to social conditioning. Boys are taught not to cry and to ‘man up’ and even though parents are more aware of challenging gender stereotypes, the divide still persists.
The old nature/nurture debate is relevant here too, as children who grow up in families where there is little expression and talk of feelings are likely to learn this way of behaving and keep their inner thoughts to themselves. Children brought up in environments where everything is ‘perfect’ (the parents hide emotion thinking they are helping their children by shielding them from emotional issues) can also learn to be emotionally sterile and inept at dealing with life’s ups and downs as they never witnessed distress or trouble being dealt with at home.
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Being open helps communication and encourages rapport and empathy with others. People are more likely to relate to you when they know what you are feeling. Social support is more available when we are open.
Expressing yourself can take a weight off your shoulders and help you to feel free of tension and worry
Asking for what you want and letting others know is a great way to increase your chances of getting what you want. As the saying goes, “if you don’t ask you definitely won’t get”.
You are more likely to get your needs met and to be more content and less likely to become involved in addictive behaviour such as overeating, gambling, drugs etc
Expressing yourself can leave you open to abuse and makes you more vulnerable.
Suppressing emotions can lead to poor memory, anxiety and depression in the long term and physiological symptoms
Being open to exploitation from others can lead to stress
Being too open can lead to one feeling insecure and vulnerable which can lead to counterproductive behaviour in order to try ‘undo’ the damage of expressing oneself
When taking everything into account, it would seem that, in general, it is healthier to wear your heart on your sleeve. Suppressing emotions creates an imbalance internally and this can lead to tension, dysfunctional behaviour and even physical illness. A crucial factor though is WHEN to express yourself and to WHOM.
It would seem it is beneficial when in the company of people that care. When in the company of people who may have a hidden agenda or do not care entirely about your welfare, it would be best to exercise caution. Expressing yourself has many cognitive, emotional and social benefits though and can lead to a more connected, fulfilled life with others.
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